7 THINGS SINGLE LADIES SHOULD KNOW ABOUT GUYS
I know some guys will be angry with me for the information I am about to give out. Please don’t be, these ladies are special to us and we should treat them with respect. Enough of playing with their heart and leaving it broken, it shouldn’t be that way. Love her if you want to and leave her alone if you don’t. There is nothing wrong with just being friends with her.
To all the single ladies, I want you to know these 7 facts about guys that will help your future relationship.
1) HE SAW SOMETHING IN YOU
No guy will walk up to you if he didn’t see anything in you and that’s the bitter truth. I keep telling ladies that if no guy comes to ask you out, check yourself. Something is definitely wrong with you.
He saw something and he wants that thing. It could be your beauty, your curves, your height, or your IQ that attracted him and when he comes over, he would want to relate with that. But the shocking news is that 70% of the guys coming to you are basically to have sex with you.
Yes, that’s the truth.
So you should be able to know from the start if he wants to be your friend first or if he just wants sex and walk away. And I tell you today that guys love sex.
2) GUYS THINK FAST
There’s a popular saying, ‘Girls have fish Brains’. This is because guys think very fast, faster than most girls. A third class academic guy becomes a first class genius when it comes to a lady. They just know what to say and how to predict things. They know when to act and when to stop, they are just too good. Know that anytime a guy comes to you, he already knows what to say and he can read body language. He knows if you are in the mood to chat or not.
3) GUYS KEEP LADIES THAT ARE ‘HARD TO GET’
If a guy comes over to you and ask for your name and you end up telling him everything about you, he will consider you as being ‘cheap’ and someone who is desperately in need of a guy. They will have fun with you and leave after a week or two or immediately after having sex with you. But when a guy walks up to you and ask for your name and you just tell him that information and then he starts asking you personal questions like if you’ve got any boyfriend or if you like sex. Stop him immediately, give him boundaries and demand he respects them.
When a guy sees a lady like this, he will respect you. He will do everything within his reach to make you trust him and he will keep you.
4) GUYS DON’T LIKE LADIES WHO ARE TOO INDEPENDENT
I know some girls want to do things by themselves, buy whatever they want for themselves and get things done by themselves. See, guys don’t like this type of ladies. They believe if you can do everything by yourself, why then should they be in your life. Allow a guy take you out, let him open the door for you and let him pay the bills. It’s a man’s job to provide for you and when you start doing things as if you are the head, he will walk away.
Even when you know how to do something, ask for his opinion, let him feel needed in your life and I bet you he will stay in your life.
5) GUYS LOVE LADIES WHO CAN COOK
When a guy is growing up, his mum cooks for him but when it’s time for him to get a girl; he would need someone to continue from where his mum stopped. You must know how to cook, if not he will walk away. Stop giving the excuse that your mum did not teach you how to cook. Go and learn how to cook if you want him to keep you.
No guy wants to stay with a lady who cannot boil water. It is his duty to work and provide for you while it is your duty to cook.
6) HE WONT STAY IF HE IS NOT READY
My friends keep asking me why I haven’t gotten a girlfriend yet. The answer is quite simple, ‘I’m not ready’. A guy who is not ready to have a girlfriend will not stay with you. He will only have sex with you and leave.
A guy who is ready is a guy who knows who he is, knows what he wants and has gotten it. That’s his focus and when he has gotten it, then he can date you but if he hasn’t gotten what he want in life, you will seem as a distraction to him. He will only call you when he is tired or needs sex but you will never be number 1 in his life.
What are you thinking???
I never said I was one of those guys.
7) HE HAS NO SAY IN YOU
Guys love girls. They want to hug you, hold you, kiss you and have sex with you. Those who are serious and have found what they want in life, date you and eventually marry you but you as the lady have the final say.
You have the key, its either you give it to him or not. When a guy wants to hug you or kiss you, you decide when he should hug you and when he should stop. And guys respect that. If they want and you don’t want, they will leave you alone. Never apologise for giving him boundaries. You have the final say. Evidence can be found when he is proposing. He will ask;
‘Will you marry me?’
Your answer determines what happen next.
So ladies, know today that guys are simple beings. You ladies are the difficult ones. When a guy sees something he likes, he walks up to it and if he values it, he will keep it. If not, he will use it and throw it away. You as the lady determine what happen.
And please, as a lady if you know that you are not ready for a serious relationship, why date him?
Guys are good at convincing girls but if you are not ready, tell him ‘NO’ and stand by it.
THANK YOU FOR READING LADIES.
Written by LIVINGSTONE IMONITIE (ALWAYS READY TO SERVE)
Livingstone Imonitie is a writer, blogger, public speaker, and inspirational coach. His main aim is to motivate, inspire and teach young folks around the world. His articles and books are being read not only in Africa but around the world.